Lifestyle Differences

“Don’t ever think I fell for you, or fell over you. I didn’t fall in love. I rose in it.” Toni Morrison Jazz 


Coming together and creating a life is what a relationships is all about. Figuring out what makes your partner tick is so intriguing and fun. Compromise makes the relationship challenging and interesting. Most lifestyle differences are easy to combine. But when they are not; it is almost impossible to get through the day to day.

Lifestyle is defined as the way in which a person chooses to live their life. To put more of a point to it, someone’s lifestyle is a mix of both the tangible and the intangible. A blend of learned habits, reactions to internal factors and a lifetime of experiences. More importantly, someone’s lifestyle is typically closely held and relied upon as part of what defines them as a person.

For example, someone who closely values money, might have a very demanding lifestyle. They might be busy with meetings and networking. Oppositely someone who values relationships with others over money might have a demanding lifestyle, but in a totally different way. Filled with family activities and running errands with them. Lifestyle differences can be direct choices made by the individual or they can be imposed by other choices in life. For example, some career types require certain lifestyle choices. Lifestyle choices can even affect roles within the family unit. Tradition lifestyles look a lot different than some modern relationships do.

If you and your partner are struggling with lifestyle clashes couples counseling can help you get on the same page. Counseling SDC offers short term and longer-term solutions to tackle any scale of difference. Bridge the gap between you and your partner with counseling support from a clinician with Counseling SDC.


Some Example Lifestyles:

Healthy Living Commitment Level

Work Commitment Level

Family Commitment Level

Living Conditions

Nomadic – Frequent Traveling / Moving

Desired levels of privacy